((((((((((ihateit))))))))))))))) So do we, but hae to live with it. Sounds like you are on the right track, and wifey is willing now to talk, and maybe get new direction from T. Sounds like u r both committed to dealing with this, and isn't that what it is all about? We just need more love and understanding than the average bear! This is a good resource for u to come and vent and ask ?? and hopefully get answers.