(((Rap))) I don't envy your position. A friend's son 15 was dating an older girl 17. They were caught on tape with her performing oral sex on him. The girl's mother threw a fit, wanted to get the boy in trouble. The police warned her that as she was the older of the two and the one actually performing the act it was she that would get in the most trouble.

In another case when a male co-worker was 19 he was dating a 17 year old girl, she got pregnant and he is now a registered sex offender. I do think there's a difference between a sexual preditor and a hormonal teenager. The list means nothing anymore, I don't know who's dangerous and who just made a mistake. A boy my daughter goes to college with was drinking one night, was walking back to the campus and had to pee, he went behind a bush. In the meantime the police stopped and talked to his friends and caught him peeing behind the bush. His case is quite bad, there happened to be a small private school within so many feet of him relieving himself so he was charged with exposing himself in the vicinity of an elementary school. It was 2:00 am for crying out loud! The case did prompt the DA in my home county to declare that if you had to go you had to go, as long as you're not exposing yourself to anyone (ie going behind a bush) and not getting any sexual gratification he would dismiss any case. This did not help the young man in question, he has to register as a class B offender (worse than other cases) for the rest of his life.

I think if it was my child, and I've had this conversation with all of my children, I'd explain the gravity of the situation. My gut response was that 15 is entirely too young, however I could and did pass for 21 at 15. Not always intentionally. I developed quite young and was always mistaken for much much older.

What do you think you're going to do?