Yep safe bet there..bad vegetables = bad salad.....

Subjects of the heart seed opinions as varied as our experience,,,and no one sees the universe through any eyes but their own...so please understand,,these are my opinions only...

I have little use for steriotypes or generalities..though they lend some creedence to trends over time in an existentialist sort of way,,they are mute to an individual's place in time and space. In the end,,we are alone with those eyes...

Motives are the key here. What are they? What could they be? Are they realistic? Are they just?

There is some danger in these relationships at having a parental, caretaking quality which as nature defines, eventually are outgrown. It is a hard enough challenge to grow together in some sync when age is approximate,,,this challenge becomes monumental when the disparity is generational. I look back at myself one decade ago...I am almost unrecognizable. That is one obstacle.

Another is ego. The self serving part of it all and the least genuine...Youth and vitality are garnered in many ways. Good eating and exercise are two well founded and proved means. Hanging out with the past generation is another. It feels good, like a gifted high,,but it is temporal,,at some point we will be rudely awakened,,,and often shamed.

These are true issues for me for I tryed the impossible..to Love and be Loved by a women 14 years my junior. It was a complex relationship which needed constant attention. When the relationship ended I had lost a friend, a lover and in some dysfunctional ways,,a daughter. Because we simply could not be equals within the relationship the foundation was sqewed by many degrees. Complex emotional coping mechanisms with some dishonesty and denial supporting them proved diastrous in the end.

Please be carefull jammin...seek the motives here,,they are most important.

With Care,

Lenny