yes, i know what you mean. I told him I don't want to know that he finds all those famous women attractive. But why would he hide the fact that he was looking up his ex girlfriend?
Yea, I've done it too, but I even told him about it. I hadn't talked to my ex in years.. he sort of disappeared so I had mentioned to my husband that I wondered if he had died or something.
It doesn't necessarily bother me that he looked her up. But why would he hide it? And why would he want to have contact with someone who cheated on him with one of his friends? I just don't understand. Mostly, why hide it from me when I walked in the room?? Why???
It makes me suspicious, though he's never really given me a reason to believe he would do anything. I just don't know why he'd hide something so stupid from me.
He still doesn't know that I found out it was his ex. I'm a little upset over it still but I'm trying to get over it on my own and just let it go.. it's hard.. But I don't want to start another fight about something we already fought about.
OMG. I have to do the same thing. It's like the only time we really talk is when we fight. He avoids confrontation and isn't open with me about anything personal.
I have people in my life that I am very close to (family mostly) and I talk to them about so many things.. I can be on the phone with my mom or 16 year old brother (crazy, i know) for hours! We talk about religion, relationships, death, experiences, food, art, EVERYTHING.. well, minus sex. haha. I just wish my husband could be more open to have conversations like that. It sometimes seems like the only thing that goes through his mind is sports. That can't be true, can it? There has to be more to him than his love for a group of men. hahah.

About women not saying what they mean. Well, that is NOT me AT ALL! I tell him exactly what I mean. If I think he's being ridiculous or he's making me angry, i tell him. If he stinks and needs a shower, I tell him. I am very forward with him.. and sometimes he says i'm mean or too honest about stuff. But I rather be that way than have us be lost and not on the same page.

I love him to death, but this is so frustrating sometimes.

We've only been married six months, so I'm scared it's not going to work out.. who knows?...

hah, I love your story about the Deer Camp.. that's so.. typical. I am the same way, at first, like if I don't want him to do something without me but if he doesn't understand my hints, I tell him, "maybe I need to be a little more obvious: I DON'T WANT YOU TO GO!!!!" hah. that usually works.
Have you worked through that though? Or do you still have that problem after so many years of marriage?