Hi Possum,

I certainly agree with you about the need to bond with your T. That has to be a huge part of a healthy working relationship. I am grateful that the first T I saw recognized that I was not able to really open up with him due to certain of my issues and He got me in touch with the woman who has worked with me for so long.

I know you are really wanting to dig in and get things done in therapy, Possum, but imho it is unhelpful to badger yourself about how fast you go in therapy. Those of us who are DID are often very complicated to work with and it takes lots of time to sort things out and work them through. I know I kept pushing and pushing and fretting about my progress only to finally see that it slowed things down because of the negative messages it sent to the alters involved. I look back and think I sent messages that were unkind and uncaring - basically "just hurry up why don't you"!!! in my mind things like that shut my system down and created anger and resistance.

I am not saying that you are doing that, Possum, I just saw that in myself. When I was able to start being more nurturing and more tuned in to the feelings, needs of my alts it helped life and growth a whole lot more. all the best!

leslie and her pixies