TPND, you are doing nothing wrong! Yes, it seems that you are around people who take a lot from you and do not give. You are doing something about this now. You know, all of us here grew up in homes where our needs were not met. This shaped us and we grew up not tending to our needs but continuing to tend to the needs of others. You are doing what all of us have done. You are coming around though. You can change this aspect of your life. You can choose different people to be around.