Hi Miss C,

Could it be that you've become too impatient with yourself?? Sometimes, we expect so much out of ourselves, thinking we should be "over" it already, that it shouldn't be taking as long to heal as it is. But you've acknowledged that your issues are "complex." That's going to take time. It's to be expected that you may bounce back and forth for a while, in your journey to healing. Growth isn't always a straight line. You struggle with something as long as you need to in order to work the issue through. It can feel repetitive at times, and you may doubt that you're moving forward. But if you take a minute to look back. . .6 months. . .a year. . .you can see that you're farther along now than you were back then.

I have noticed that at times when I feel stuck in a rut, or that I'm going over and over the same issues, it often means that there's some key piece missing. . .perhaps some fear that is preventing me from getting across that hurdle. . .or perhaps that I need more reinforcement, more support, more safety before I am ready to take that next step. Could this be true for you?

In reading your posts, I think you're having some great insights and making some fine progress. Be patient with yourself and your pace. You'll get there.