Man, I thought I was reading my bio. When I got divorced my ex convinced me not to file thru the state for child support. So I did not. He gets married and decides he needs to do less not counting the fact that he left me with bills to pay and of course paying for the kids. Well finally I got feed up with nagging for money all the time. Which he still has not paid by the way. But by turning it over to the state I no longer have to be a bill collector and it is no longer an issue for me. It is now in someone's hands and I don't seem to resent everything he does when it comes to spending money. I know one day the state will catch up to him and he will have to pay up. But by having a third party it took more stress off of me than I realized. I thought by filing on him he would take it out on the kids but he did not. In fact he was so mad at me he spent quality time with them to get back at me. I think that backfired on him. I want my kids to have a relationship with their dad. That is their dad. You really should consider having someone else handle the child support issue. There are several agencies that work with you. They do charge a fee but there is allot to be said for piece of mind.