TPND, you do deserve this attention! You do deserve to be looked after, cared about, loved and helped! I come to this website and you are one of my priorities here. Do you know why? Because you deserve my attention!

Your foster family abused you because of their problems not because you deserved this abuse. Why is it still happening? I would guess because when people grow up in abusive situations they never learned how to escape from other abusive people. When you were a child how could you have escaped by yourself? Who would have taught you how? You are so capable now of learning all of this stuff and you are! Right now you are taking steps to stop the abuse from others. You are setting boundaries with Connor. Everything we know must be learned and you are now doing it!

No one is hurting because of you. If anyone around you is hurting it is their responsibility. It is not your responsibility to take care of others. Yes, you can help others but their fate is in their hands not yours. We all must be responsible for ourselves. Again, you can help others but you are not the person to take responsibility for their lives. (These are boundary issues. A person must draw boundaries around themselves that they adjust as needed according to the situation. Healthy boundaries, that you are in charge of, are vital for mental and emotional health. And yes, your education in boundaries in your foster home was abysimal. They violated your boundaries at every turn. You can learn this now, though, and you are!)