Grace,

I certainly can't explain your mother, but what I can say is that you have made HUGE steps in your recovery, and so has your husband. But there are more steps for both of you to take in the coming months, so I would focus on the two of you for a change. Let your mom move on for now and work on your relationship with her when your life has calmed down. I think that right now, your priorities are you, your kids, your husband, and then your mom. Maybe warn your brother though =). She'll see what a difference you've made when things calm down. She'll see how happy you and your husband are, and then she'll look like the fool. As far as others in your town go, let them talk. Once they see you won't react, it'll die off. Soon you won't be the hot topic anymore once they see that things have improved for you. I say let it all go for now and reconsile later, when you have time and energy! You are a strong woman. Keep drawing on that strength and you'll be fine!!!

Love you sistah!
Rayna