It's okay to care, and grieve, and be angry about what she is doing.

I'm glad to hear that she is moving. In my own case, my mother was my main abuser, so I've plenty of unfortunate stories.

I work on remembering two things, that I get to be human, and that I get to have boundaries. Also, as I was initially sorting some trauma out, I'd ask myself if I'd ever do the same thing to my own son. Would I do to my son what my mother did to me? No way! I might not have yet been able to see what I was worthy of, I might have questioned whether maybe I was over-reacting etc., but once I checked out whether it was okay to do whatever to my son, everything became really clear.

Take way way good care of yourself. Extra bonus comfort time. Verbal abuse can be as bad as a physical pummeling.

Sarah