You cannot compare Asia with the US. One is an individual culture and the other is a group culture. Asia has all sorts of social controls which keep people in line.

I tried spanking once, didn't work. I did find what worked though - teaching. Children don't know anything unless you teach them. The child needs to be understood so that the parent understands what is going on with them and why they are misbehaving.

I think a lot of our social problems have to do with parents not spending time with their kids. How can children be shaped to be polite, follow rules, problem solve, etc. unless a parent is spending time with them teaching them.