I'm sorry Tomi. I guess you have to look deep inside you for the reason that you stay. I know I do some things too that are emotionally harmful for me and I often question why I continue to do that. Like maybe I feel I don't deserve any better or something? I haven't figure it out but I am working on it and taking positive steps. Of course, my situation is different from yours, so I'm not really sure what you could do. I'm assuming that you've talked to him probably several times to no avail. How about marriage councilling? You've probably suggested that too. I feel for you. I can only imagine how terribly hard it must be for you to deal with on a daily basis. Have you dealt with this in therapy?

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