Lbien, I know what you are saying. I had an emotionally abusive friend when I was growing up. Looking back I just didn't stand up for myself so she wasn't as bad as how I contributed to it. Doesn't matter, though. This was my experience. I think that it was helpful to see how I contributed to it though. When you see how you contribute to it it is empowering because it means that you aren't simply a victim of others.