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hi again one of many and other posters. i read something today that confirmed for me that the "don't talk, don't tell" training comes early and harsh. you are not the only one i know who just can't get the words out when she is with anyone she doesn't feel very safe with. for her, that is 99.9% of people. we've had a phone friendship for about 15 years. we talk pretty freely and then not.
possum said it VERY well, it can't be forced - that actually locks it down tighter i think. however, like she said you can provide some space, safe space and tools and then just invite the insiders to talk or ask them some "leading questions" and give them some time. you are not alone, though it sure feels like it sometimes.
one of the hardest things i am seeking to learn is to be really kind to myself and to nurture myself. somehow, there is a way out and a life beyond.
leslie and her pixies
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