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Originally Posted by salukigirl
thanks, rhap. thats kinda what i was thinking. its like all of a sudden all the craziness i experienced with other guys just isnt there. he can call girls cute all he wants and it doesnt bother me and it doesnt bother him if i do the same. i dont feel like i have to spend every second with him (the lust part) and i feel like im not experiencing jealousy or possessiveness like i used to. ive actually kind of surprised myself. it was like all of a sudden i felt like that feeling everyone talks about, i knew what that was like now. i feel like were the same on so many levels and it feels really good.
ive heard that, whatever happens during the 1st 2 weeks of a relationship, thats what u can expect to repeat itself the rest of the relationship. and it has been nothing but having fun and thats all. and hes been completely supportive of me wanting to wait to make it sexual which was very surprising for me. hes said the same thing to me. he just keeps saying "im so glad i met you" like everyday. so i get what ur saying rhap. cause ive experienced the lust before and this definately isn't it.
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I have been married 4 times. This marriage is my lasting one, I believe, and have for a long time now, that she is my soul mate, but no, it wasn't love at first sight, lust for sure heh.
It took me a long time to "fall in love" with her, and I am still in love with her 11 years on. Something you wrote concerns me tho, "ive heard that, whatever happens during the 1st 2 weeks of a relationship, thats what u can expect to repeat itself the rest of the relationship." No, that is so false I almost laughed out loud. 11 years now of ups and downs, sometimes yeah, I get that old 1st feelings going, but "newness" is a great feeling, it's something you can't get back once you have been with someone for a long time. Doesn't mean you don't love them, just means that kinda of fire won't last through the relationship/marriage. In the beginning of a relationship people do things they normally would not do, to either impress, or make you think things about them. I didn't fart in front of my wife for 2 years...true story, and an example of what peeps will do. Don't fool yourself you're in a great relationship because you have the "newness" feelings. I agree it's great to feel that way, but let the newness pass and move to a higher lvl of love, where you stay with that person despite the faults you ignored from the beginning are now bothering you, where you accept that ... he farts ... and then you'll know for sure what's what.
