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I had a therapist say that when she worked on the trauma unit, people would question if they were really abused or not.
And the therapists were told to tell them that "if you perceived it as abuse, then it was."
What the heck does that mean??????
I find that very invalidating, personally.
Are you trying to tell me that if I 'perceived' abuse when my friend patted me on the back, that she did in fact abuse me?????
That is a ridiculous example, I know, but I am trying to make a point.
Oh I definitely perceived abuse. No doubt in my mind that I was damaged in this relationship. I wan’t to KNOW if I was just being sensitive, if I was making it into more than what it really was. Cuz if I was, then there is a whole other issue going on that I need to fix. I need to know which problem to fix, before I can fix it.
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