thanks, ms. GG, it is a good feeling to know that volunteerism really does pay off....but, as i said, i'm going very slowly to see what work best for me...and taking care of myself first is a very unusual role for me........i am used to putting myself last...except for that trip that i took when the psych doc went with me..because every time he opened his mouth, "i learned something"..... now that was a beneficial life experience.....