My T's approach is not to tell me I was abused. In fact sometimes the way she words things I get the impression that maybe she thinks I wasn't. But when I think about what she says it is more that she is not wanting to convey that I was a helpless victim or focus on the horrible. She seems to focus how strong I was, or how the child me responded to protect herself and that the experience has shaped who I am in positive ways.

I think my T wants me to realize and accept that what happened to me was abuse. I tend to down play what happen, say it was no big deal, say I had a choice and could have run, stuff like that. My T challenges these statements without telling me...hey that is abuse.