Thanks!

I have heard it both ways, the wife complaining because the husband doesn't want to make love, and visa-versa, but I have never heard anyone say they just plain old don't need that kind of intimacy.

I don't view it as a lie. Like I said there have been times when we would go through periods where everything was fine, 3 or 4 times a week, if not more...then the "droughts". So I know she needs it, it's just during these times I get so frustrated.

Now that she finally brought it to the attn of her T, and he's not doing anything ... I wonder about him. He has so far shown less than what I would call knowledgeable help. Maybe I read too much, or whatever, but there are things I know that apparently when my wife brings them up he doesn't. I can't be her T, even in everyday conversation if I say something, and she doesn't quite believe, and she hears it somewhere else she'll be like oh ok. I'll say I said that, and she'll say I needed validation. Whatever, so I leave the T to do his thing, but I feel instead of asking the right questions, he just treats the symptoms, well...there it is I guess...

Being that she has schizoid tendancies, talking is just not something she does (about her feelings). She can come home from work and talk up a storm about what happened that day, then completly shut down for the rest of the night, talking only when talked to. So, I have to do a lot of talking. This is frustrating, because I have the need to talk things out, let my feelings out, and like I said, she can and has shut down so much that our marriage almost fell apart. Willing to risk everything because she's affraid to talk? I dont' get it...I understand the diagnosis, and I try hard to read up and learn what I can, but it's hard to deal with, I love her so much, so I deal with it...when she lets you in, you can see how beautiful she is inside, and this isn't an ongoing thing either...it comes and goes, so when marital problems do arise, it's hard to deal with her not talking. *Shrug* guess I am rambling, but where else can I ramble?