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ihateit · Feb 08, 2009, 04:01 AM

Is there such a thing as a healthy relationship? In a word, yes!

Is there such a thing as having someone in your life who loves, supports, cares and doesn't abuse you? I wold never abuse anyone, my wife has a coulple of problems she's working on with her T, and I totally am in support of her and help her all I can, so she can move past her problems and get better, and of course I love her, very, very much, I wouldn't be with her, married to her, if I didn't. Especially in a marriage, if you take your vows seriously, "In sickness and in health" ... that to me says it all.

Is there such a thing as that for anyone? We have had our problems, even almost a divorce after 11 years together, but through patience, learning about ourselves and our problems, we have worked through them, and our marriage is getting stronger day by day, so yeah, there is.

Is there such a thing as that for mentally ill people--people with DXes? Like I said, we both have something, I am Anxiety/Panic with a plethora of phobias...but Anxiety/Panic leads to other problems, anger, being controlling, as much as other disorders lead to other things...she has her issues, but we learn about them, realize our mistakes and have moved on, the person you're with has to realize that you have problems, hell, we all do in one way or another, and if they love you, they will help you through your bad times with what you need.

I've never been in a relationship like that. I feel bad, becuase it's out there, truly it is.

I've never known anyone in a healthy relationship, even if it isn't downright abusive. Abusive isn't a healthy relationship in any way shape or form. And maybe you hang with the wrong peeps. I know a lot of people that have healthy relationships, but remember healthy doesn't mean they haven't had their fair share of fights, ups and downs, and major problems...what matters is how they reacted to them and worked through them.

Is it even a reality? Again, yes, it is a reality, not everyone is willing to deal with people with mental issues because of the stigma and the labels society had put upon us. Many don't find out about a problem 'til it's too late and then walk away unwilling to help. But for those who know who their partner is, and love them, yes, they stay, they help, and work through problems together.

I hope you can find it, it's there. God bless!