She has some growing up to do, some sorting out, some figuring if these guys will adore and honor her as you do. Maybe she is in self-destruct mode. Once you are divorced, it will be hard to remember that you no longer own the right to feel jealous or hurt when she goes out with someone new, because you still love her. Don't ever lose a way to contact her if you have hopes of a later with her. My heart hurts for what you are going through--please take care of yourself during this and make sure you don't fall into the self-destructive mode, either. I know that in the miliary, there are plenty of opportunties to do things that are not great for yourself. Be careful and safe and healthy.