Sunrise,
this is where I have trouble, maybe you can say something that would help ....

if a T. had done that to me with the computer thing, I would have been so triggered, because I would have seen it like this: .

'You're the T. I am paying you, not just to be here, but I am having to show you how to behave, and paying you for the privilege. THIS is such a double bind, that it doesnt seem enough just to challenge this in the session, ... , it needs to be put right, like not having to pay for that session, because it perpetuates the 'over entitlement' of some to have this laissez faire attitude that s not fitting'.

..it doesnt make for an easy life, having these attitudes, and needless to say, I lose a lot of relationships. But am I wrong?
I know people who so badly needed help, and would have felt so betrayed by this that they would have gone off and that would have been the last chance to help them. That he knows you well, and is comfortable enough, just doesnt seem to make it ok iether.

obviously, you dealt with this and the outcome was fine for you, ...
how..?
what ..?
just some thoughts and personal responses, I'm trying to educate myself about how other humans react so differently than me..

riverx