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Originally Posted by krazibean
I have a facebook myself, and have often wondered if she had one. I would search for her every once in awhile and feel sorta relieved to find she didn't have one. She's not "apart of that world".
Recently in session T was sharing with me how she "reconnected" with some old friends from high school, and she was saying how cool it was to be "messaging back and forth." My first thought was, i wonder if she made a facebook.
I searched her name, and there she is. Its a picture of her with her son oustide. Her name is black (for those of you who don't have a facebook that means her name isn't a link so you can't click on and view her profile). Part of me is SOOOO curious....to look at her info, her "friends", her comments, her pics, her status....but part of me is like whoaa. she only has 12 friends and i'm pretty sure all of them are old and actual FRIENDS that she's using facebook to reconnect with. It would be weird if a client friend requested her. But at the same time, she knows i have a facebook cause i've talked about it before...and other people must have too....don't you think she should be prepared for someone she works with to discover her???
Becoming a "friend" on facebook feels like its crossing a line. but at the same time, what can it hurt? we know each other and have a relationship...why would i ignore the fact that theres someone out there on facebook that i know? Seeing it makes me realize how real she is, and that im not invited to that. If i friend her i could get rejected and lectured, and even seen as weird. I'd also be self conscious of things i post on my profile in fear that she'd be looking at it and "analyzing" me. If i don't friend her, i'll be searching her name every day to see if its still there or if her profile picture changed...i'll be borderline obsessed. To friend or not to friend? I think i know the answer....and the reality of it makes me really sad....
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(((((((((kiya)))))))))
I keep a lot of stuff private on my Facebook account.
I think most people should be careful about public access to their personal life via the Internet. Since this seems like common knowledge to me, I would think that a therapist would be kinda... sensitive to that, but then again many people simply don't know the power of the Internet. Then there are other people who have 300 "friends" and I have to wonder if they realize their potential future employer can access their personal information...
I wouldn't want to be friends with my T, and I haven't even looked if he's on Facebook... in truth I don't even visit Facebook or MySpace that often so I don't really care I guess. Even so, it would make me feel freaky to "friend" my therapist, so I wouldn't do it.
I think your status quo situation is great, so I wouldn't put yourself out there for possible rejection (which is possible as she might have strict personal rules for who she accepts on her friends list).
I know a lot about my T but there's certain areas I just don't even want to go and Facebook or MySpace are two of them.
My suggestion is don't bother with it. You have a great relationship with your T and so I wouldn't open a can of worms.
