This is not a site for judgemental people. This is a site for people who want to offer help and support.

You are who you are - a beautiful and unique being. Maybe you have qualities that aren't great and that don't do you any favours. They are your obstructions they are NOT YOU!

We all need hope, and that hope needs to be grounded in something. I got hope from Dr Clay's book Psychological Self-Help and one of my purposes on this site is to promote it a bit in the hope that others might get some help from it too.

The thing is that many of us, myself included, have so many issues that the task of change seems daunting. However if we set little, specific goals for ourselves, and then make plans how to achieve them, we can start to make small incremental improvements in our life that really will start to add up to something. This is my experience and I believe that it can be other people's experience too.

Well done for being here, and well done for wanting help and wanting to change. I really hope that you can get the help and support you need, and make the changes that will enable you to feel happier about yourself and your life.

A really important one it to learn to accept yourself for who you are.