OK GIRL FRIEND! You HAVE been doing "stupid" things all along (to use your phraseology.) This HAS been going on for 3 years, yet you continue to react like always. What has your past and present actions/reactions changed? Nothing. You haven't changed your neighbor (obviously not your responsibility) but neither have you changed.

IMHPO you need to start looking at this situation from a different perspective. What is it about this, the neighbor and your anger and all that goes into this relationship, that keeps you coming back for more? It has to be feeding something in you. Perhaps you relive certain traumas that you have never faced? I don't know, but YOU can know... only you can know for sure.

The way you are responding to this stimuli is not healthy. (And I won't even get into the Christian aspect of your actions... because I'm not even sure you are ready to hear what I just said above.)

Breathe! Try to avoid exacerbating the situation (and with a drunk no less? like that takes a lot of brains?) Wait until you are calmer and then try analyzing just what's in this for you.

Be safe you ninny.