And by feeling your feelings, you will be "you" again. I think perhaps we beat ourselfs up with feelings of how selfish we must be, we can see what a good deed someone is doing, unyet we still fee as we do...I think for those that already have gotten enought of what they needed, then thats proberbly how they see things, but fires or no fires, as tragic as they are, you still have a deep wound inside!, and to you that is your tragedy, as real as any other.