Well....coming out of a 5 year relationship myself...3 years of it married....i can sense where she is coming from. Depending on if theywere engaged....married....or what but perhaps she isnt wanting something solid yet and wanting to know you more and get comfortable around you more before committing. That's what i am telling the girl i am talking to now.....
and she wants a committment and she knows the situation i am in. If you dont want a friend with benfit type thing with her...let her know.....communication is key in ANY relationship IMO

BTW welcome to PSYCHCENTRAL!