Madisgram,

Excellent posts have been given to you. One thing I can offer that I've been thinking about since before you moved to Florida is 'what about you in this caretaker role' ?

Now, that this first crisis is dealt with, and you're putting plans into place for David - I ask, what about you? What's in place for you? I agree with Lenny that our sobriety must be everything. Without it, one picks right back up where one left off. Not pretty, right? (understatement - jme!)

I've not heard you mention a current therapist in your life especially since the move. My suggestion is that should be part of the agreement you have as David's primary caretaker. Get thee to therapy!

I hate it that he hurt your feelings. I know he's ill, you know he's ill, but it still hurts. Can you imagine laughing at any of this in two years?? Maybe the sting is too smart right now but if you go to enough meetings, and talk about it enough...

I offer you two virtual arms extended! Lay your head on my shoulder and hold on, it's ok. I'm sorry he hurt you, especially in such a public way. All you were trying to do was help him! Let's say the Serenity prayer together.

notz