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Originally Posted by pegasus
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You have every right to feel angry but can you view this as, 'Was this how David normally behaves?'
My opinion, if David is normally abusive then as an adult you do not have to put up with it. Your choice. Would be best to live apart for sure.
If this was the illness speaking and this doesn't happen often and you are willing to forgive him then it needs to be discussed. Obviously you will need to wait until he is well enough. Sit down together and tell him calmly how he hurt your feelings. Find out from him if that is really how he feels about you.
Breathe, you have just been through the most horrendous stressful time.
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oh thanks, peg . excellent advice. can't thank you enough for responding. it's just what i want to do, altho with his chronic schiz. i am not sure if it would work. we'll see. i'll speak with hisi case mamanger at va today about it.
no david was a gentle man before he got ill. the violence, not directed at me, occured before he got help. this is the first time i have witnessed it again. but no, it was the suggestion of physical abuse and more of it was verbal and emotional abuse towards me.
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