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Originally Posted by coconut64
Today T hit a huge, huge nerve. I just shut down. I'm guessing this is because of trauma, who knows. Does this happen t anyone else? T tried to reassure me over and over that he wasn't tring to hurt me, that it is important that we talk about this stuff. I just shut down completely. No talking, no looking at him. How you do re-engage after this? No idea. I see again later this week but I really don't want to do. I want to quit. Yes I know I'll never heal if I quit, but it seems so unfair to have to revisit all this again. I just don't want to deal with it. Any ideas? Thoughts?
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Hi coconut
Yes. I have been there. Just yesterday actually. Every response I had was "I don't know". My T even said "Yes, YOU do" which usually un-shuts me, but not yesterday.
I usually deal with it by going in for another session. I *know* logically that if I get locked into avoidance that I will not heal. And I can get locked in. Paying for an extra session usually gets the ball rolling again...However, my heart aches to be done with the pain. And, yeah, I so want to quit.
Just know you are not alone.
~Searching