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Originally Posted by Lbien6
No doubt in my mind that I was damaged in this relationship.
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there is your answer "L'. ..."no doubt in my mind..." so many of us that have been abused start to question if we caused the abuse. that's called a POW syndrone. must've deserved it to be treated this way. so we start absorbing the abusers wrongdoing when in fact we don't' 'own" it at all.
it's so foreign to our minds that i feel, imho, that we feel we must make sense of something done to us that really isn't based on good sense/fact.
no, i believe you were abused in that relationship. the only part you need to fix is to heal from the abuse you experienced. 
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