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imapatient · Feb 11, 2009, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by krazibean

Is giving T a cd that consists of (love) songs that remind me of her, songs that i wish she would sing to me, and songs that inspire me like her.....is that breaking a boundary?

i want to make up a cd for T but i'm not sure if its appropriate....

I think it’s “not inappropriate.” It's not really a boundary breaker, it’s an attempt attempted boundary changer.

You're not doing anything to violate her personal space, her personal life. You're not behaving inappropriately. So in that sense it's not a boundary violation.

What you want to do is transcend the barrier between you and your T in terms of connecting on a personal, non-therapy related level. That's an attempt to change the boundaries, open up a new type of connection.

It's important to tell your T about this because it reveals the depth of your desire for a personal connection--that's not a bad thing at all. It's important for both of you to understand that and what your relationship means to you. That's therapy. And you need to tell her why you picked the songs you did.

I don't think there's any harm in bringing in it in. It better demonstrates the strength of your feelings. But I would highly doubt that she'd take it, or if so, not for the reasons you'd like. It’s all fodder for understanding yourself.