Many children who were abused were also warned not to tell or else....  I was told that if I were to tell no one would ever want me. Others would know how nasty I really was and would be disgusted.
Add to this the shame one feels about being abused and you have a potent recipe for fear and inability to tell or even hint at what happened.
Finally until you have processed the past fully the poison is still there - lessened by sharing but still there ready to bite you in the tush.
Don't let this stop you from sharing. . . . The more you share the more, your therapist shows that you are more than what was done to you, that you are valuable the easier it becomes to live with and healing sets in. Therapy is hard. Healing is hard but the end is worth the journey. Some days the journey is worth more than the end.
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dalila
Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.
-Erma Bombeck
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