I am having a personal struggle making a decision about a friendship that has gone on for several years. There are many things this person and I have in common and I do love them but our approach to life and problem solving have big differences. I feel that my friend is in a constant state of crisis and that I can no longer handle it. I don't know what to do because my friend has a debilitating health condition and is severely depressed. But, I get long angry letters and emails that outline all her problems and sometimes I am depressed for days afterword. When I told her to get professional help she went once and then walked out on it. I didn't get any felicitations from her on my birthday or Xmas or any other special occasion. For some reason I have just let things get to this point because of her illness and I can't seem to resolve what to do about this relationship. The last straw was a cryptic email telling me "something" was coming in the mail. It triggered anxiety that a bomb will be dropped on me in the form of long-winded venting and I have medical conditions of my own. Why on earth do I feel guilty..... I want to be a good friend but there has to be something positive in life and it can be habit forming to look for something in each day to be thankful for.