I am no doctor but it seems more like BPD than oppositional defiant (ODD). I was previously diagnosed with ODD and that eventually became CD (conduct disorder) and eventually what may soon be ASPD (anti-social) /NPD (narcissistic) (waiting for the phone call to go in and do tests). In fact, I see really nothing in the list that you gave that resembles ODD.

If you want a proper diagnosis, go to a psychologist or psychiatrist. It may take a while, as I've seen 7-8 psychiatrists, a few therapists, and only these last 2 psychiatrsts have been so far of any use. And when I do these personality tests, also seeing a psychologist.