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Originally Posted by dsh74
Don't know what to do - our son-in-law who lives with here with me, my husband, our daughter (his wife), their son (4) and our older daughter. Too many in house. But s-i-l plays EverQuest and it's really getting on everyone's nerves. He might try to do things when they need done, but not real often. He does do work for our business, when there are jobs, but too much of the time, he's at his computer, which is in our living room area. Not spending enough time with his son, etc., etc.
Anyone else with problems like this? And what seems to be the remedy today? Any help here and advice would be appreciated, thanks.
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I was stuck on MMOs (EverQuest, EverQuest II, LOTRO), I liked the detachment from the "real" world. For 8 months after I started my wife didn't play, she said she didn't mind...then she started, then the problems started. She eventually quit and I couldn't, not until 3 weeks ago that is. I just cancelled my subscriptions and gave them up cold turkey. My thing was they weren't fun anymore, and I was doing exactly what you say your son-in-law is doing, no family time, all I wanted to do was play. It is an addiction and it's hard to break...for me it wasn't so hard, I love my family and they need me, those games are just...games. He needs to know that EQ is not life, a lot of players play to get away, to not face real life "RL" as the players call it. People are faceless (bascially, you do have the cartoon you play (toon, or char), names aren't real, and if you don't like somone you just don't talk to them. It wasn't that hard for me to give it up like I said, but many IMHO use the game because they are not happy in real life, and escape to this fantasy world where they can control life and be happy. I would have a talk with him and maybe even make him go see a T to help with this. GL, I know what these games can do to people, even resulting in death (extreme cases), I hope you can talk him into at least playing casualy, but that's hard for a hard core player, who IMHO needs to quit slowly, like a drug, taper off. Hopefully he's receptive to real life and will see what he's doing. Good luck!
