Can I ask a question? Are you attracted to your husband? The reason I ask is that I have a thyroid disorder and a shady history.......I hate being touched and my libido is non-existent......I am quite sick so I am never really in the mood.

The thing is, my attraction for my partner has never waivered. He is still as yummy as ever, I just dont have the physical manifestations.....it is very frustrating for both of us.....this has been going on for 4 years. So we have this sort of agreement......we both understand how sick i am, so I only have sex when I think I can, health wise. So I guess you could say I am "pretending" but I am not faking as there is nothing to fake......we both know where we stand.

I wonder if it is emotional or physical, your situation. You have had alot to deal with and conception is no mean feat for you......your Endocrinologist should have tested tour hormone levels and thyroid function......get that checked.......I think progesterone is one of the hormones behind libido.

Good luck babe, my heart goes out to you......keep us posted

And maybe this should be put on the sex forum..........