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I've been dating a guy for a little over a month now. Our two month anniversary will be the 21st. Before we started a romantic relationship he was one of my best friends, and a person who I knew I could confide in, and also someone who I connected with on a mental level that is hard to find in the rural area where I live. But since then we've had two of what I call "breakup scares", where he trys to innitiate a breakup, and I somehow talk him out of it. His main "reason" is that because we're such good friends he doesn't want to break my heart down the road, and he "knows" that he's going to. He says that relationships are something that he gets tired of easily. After a short phone conversation (30-45 is what I call a short conversation) I managed to figure out what was really bothering him in our relationship during the second breakup scare. He was feeling really stressed and sad about being laid off of his job (which he didn't tell me but I knew played into it), and he had all kinds of trapped feelings and guilty feelings about not spending enough time with me even though I never pressure him to spend time with me, and in fact I encourage him to spend time with his friends. After I talked it through with him he said that I had made him feel better about everything he had been stressing about and he asked if he could just take back the whole breaking up with me thing. I've been feeling really insecure since then. I don't want to do anything to make him want to leave me, but at the same time I don't want to be in a relationship where I have reason to worry all the time. What do you think?
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