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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
Say that a child can only survive growing up by presenting a good obedient outside, when inside there is huge resentment and anger at the injustice he knows to be the truth.
Suppose this continues during all the home years, say up through age 21 when he graduates college and goes out into the world.
By that time, as he becomes an adult, has he not developed the habit of wearing a false persona? Since he learned to lie early (and well), and continued lying for so many years, is he now just fundamentally a liar? and will always be one?
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Sitting, it certainly seems as though these ways we have learned to survive "make us" to be one way. A fundamental or intrinsic place of being. Maybe I am just an optimist, but, I believe that fundamentally I am whatever is inherent to my soul and personality and the rest are ways I learned to cope and to survive. While they may, right now, seem fundamental and insurmountable, I believe that I do possess the power and resources to unlearn what it is that I "learned" in order to survive.
Next week I may feel different, but right now there is much hope.
