Thanks MissCharlotte. I think what you said there is interesting and probably something I will have to think about more in the future, something I've never thought about before. Thanks for that book recommendation, too.

Just had my session and feel exhausted. But not angry for the first time in a while, so I guess that's something. We talked by phone, so I was able to say more than I usually do, to be more direct without leaving the experience, and I think we accomplished some things. I think she finally got what I was saying (I thought it had been obvious before, but she claims she didn't know. We decided that in the future I will use certain code words when things are bad, that way she won't miss it and can respond accordingly.) I'll probably post more when I've had some time to process it.

Thanks again.