Yeah, I think that's what's supposed to happen in theory. I just haven't read enough to understand exactly how that healing step works. Briere said a little bit about it, that part of it is that you experience the feeling in therapy, but then come to realize the present situation is not the same as the one that made you originally feel that, and recognizing that "disparity" is helpful (he said it better). That of course assumes there is disparity (i.e. that the T isn't doing the same thing that hurt you the first time, in which case, that would be confirmation, and not a very good feeling).

As for not knowing/realizing until therapy, yes, me too. I was in the habit of not thinking about things and just moving on. So, yes, lots of things that had never been reflected on before.

Thanks again, EM. I appreciate the support.