Leslie, don't let your husband bully you into believing what he wants you to believe. My ex did the same thing to me and I listened to him. Now I'm trying to undo the mess a few years later.

I'm finding out there are lots of free avenues of support. Start with calling your county domestic abuse hotline (him trying to use your health problems to blackmail you is abuse) and pretty soon you'll have all kinds of support coming your way. I know it can be hard taking that step and asking for help, but there are a lot of people here that will help you along the way.

Welcome to the forums, and I hope you find what you need here.

((((((((hugs))))))))