There has been a change... it started this January when we were sui. T's eyes deepened and reached all the way to her own pain (past experiences, maybe even other lost clients). It hasn't really mended back over - the old look. The new deepened trench is still partly visible. Last night again it was very deep. We were discussing the main controlling alter of the system. T said she wanted to start EMDR with me, but that there is no ruch and we would work our way there... but something about that depth in T's eyes held me fast - rather than retreating from her. This is new for us. Reading other ppl's posts, things ring true for my t; like integrity, especially, and how that is the most important trait to T. It is for us also... so another level of trust was paved. I didn't tell her that, but maybe that got translated in the gaze; the new road paved of pain between us that we both understand far too well...
just thoughts... feel free to add....