You're a watch dog!

Seriously though...It really depends on the man. I used to enjoy porn, not because it was domination of the woman, or sexual fantasies with those particular women, but because my sex life just sucked. No details, but I was married and if I was lucky, I was getting it once a month, if that. I am not addicted to sex, but I'll tell ya, if I don't get it three times a week or more, I get very frustrated.

Now, after a lot of learning about me, my wife, and sex vs. making love, I can't enjoy porn in the least, literally. I tried and it just doesn't do anything for me...where as I look at my wife (TMI maybe) in her bra and thong, and I can't get up in front of my children for a while (if ya know what I mean). I am not that young either, not that old, 41...but I have found, for me, that variation, (I am not kinky) and changing routines really helps curb the need to even look at another woman let alone porn, also the way I feel about my wife, and for reason of my faith. I don't know how many other men out there either for religious views, or whatever feel the same as me, I know I am not a rare case, by any means. I say as the others, make him listen to you, and you listen to him, talk about it and get it out. I don't believe in, if the husband is home, the wife should be masturbating, or when the wife is home the man should be masturbating...you are there for each other, and I feel something, mental or physical, is wrong if you are not with your partner when they are right there. Alone, and not giving you what you need (both sides here) I believe is wrong too, and things need to be worked out. Lying about it is worse...I actually caught my wife doing it, I walked in on her, and for 5 years she denied it, finally telling me yes she was. Trust was broken, I was home ... why not me, why alone...I know why, again no details, but these things need to be talked about. I really don't think it should end a marriage, counseling for him or you both is always a good option. GL!