Kiya,

What a nice post. The deepening relationship is manifested in your ability to hold the eye contact and look deeper now. It's funny, but I feel closer to T now than ever also and I think it has something to do with my ability to really let him in this time when I was suffering as well. For me, I don't think there is one particular trait that is the most important but integrity is way up there--compassion is too--as well as honor, faith, and hope.