Hello silver moon,
Trust is hard to come by when it has been lost, but what worked for me was trusting myself. Once I learned that I was able to identify with who and when I was ready to have a relationship. I was abused in two of my relationships, one with my ex husband and the other with a man that I had a relationship with for 11 years and with both of these men I ran my life around. Im in my third relationship and we have been together for 3 years so far and I know I will be with my partner now for a long time to come. I still have the trust issues but it is nothing like it was. I just don't tolerate any type of disrespect or abuse and my partner knows this. But also on the other hand he does not tolerate it from me either and he points this out when he says stop comparing me with your ex's. Sometimes I don't realize that I do it. Dig deep inside yourself and pull out the bits that you like and cherish and nurture it, because only we know what we want. Sometimes its better to put ourselves first,but I dont mean selfishly, you know what makes you happy and you are responsible for your own happiness and when your happy everyone else will be as well. I wish you well. Take Care Molly