I am going through the exact same thing with my husband. we have been together for 6 years. we have been through alot.. from him cheating to losing his brother in the war, him deploying himself and now the talk of divorce. We both believe we have something many people dont have. we love eachother greatly. but over the years he has torn me down greatly. putting me in situations you should never put a loved in and cheating is the greatest problem. Even now hes saying I am the one person he wants to be with, yet he has feelings for another girl... Honestly honey I can tell you they never change! My husbands parents are the same way, maybe thats why he thinks its okay i dont know. I finally got strong enough to leave and though it hurts because i love him, I am actually happy stress free for the first time in years! Its up to you what you want to do. but once ou have an emotional detatchment from him, there hard to reverse. Thats where i am right now. I stopped feeling anythin for him, i was numb in our relationship and it reallyhurts to see the man who was my life turn into someone i dont even want to see at all! Now hes willing to change for me and i cant even give him another chance.