i used to have a problem with porn but then my ex explained it to me this way that when he watches it if im at work or out of town etc... hes imagining it with me. hes not imagining himself with those girls, he said it makes him think of having sex with me. and i never really believed him. til one time he was out of town and i watched one of his dvds just to see what it was all about and all it really made me want was him. thats when i kind of understood porn a little more. when ur not with someone it probably is just the visual stimulation and thinking about urself in that position. but when ur with someone u care about, its not about that, its just extra y'know? women are much more mentally in tuned while guys need that visual stimulation. thats all it is. i would be much more concerned with him lying about it rather then the actual watching it.