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Originally Posted by chaotic13
My T made a therapy comment a few weeks ago... but she chose to be more general in saying, "therapists often do the same thing in their therapy." The way it was stated, it was implied that she was talking about herself.
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Isn't that interesting!? Did you find as a comment that this was helpful? Like maybe you and her are not so different? Your T does sound pretty great...
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Originally Posted by hangingon
Thanks searching,
I hope to keep at it with this T and not run. I think this is one that I can learn to connect with. I never did that with my last one but kept going hoping that would change, a year later I was still in the same spot with connection. I can't say that year was a waste, more like a stepping stone to where I am today because I had changed some, I never talked about my issues before her.
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(((((hangingon)))))
You did not run from your last T. You thought long and hard about your decision. You were intentional about it, researched other Ts, met them...You were amazing! And you are right, your old T was a step to where you are now. I would imagine that you learned from it many things, one of which was that you would need a different kind of T in order to open up about what you need to open up about. What you knew then and know now needs to be healed. That is great work! Some people never get there...
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
one day T told me that I was "sensitive" and I received that as a criticism - whiny, complaining, is what I heard, and I made a face - she picked up on my expression and she told me, "sensitivity is not a fault and it's not a weakness - I am sensitive myself."
I looked at her and realized she was right - sensitive and caring and balanced and courageous - and I was speechless. This was a kind of self-disclosure that had a whole new effect, so different from "self disclosure" like when she tells me whe went to spend a week with her grandsons...
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Yes, therapeutic self disclosure has been a catalyst in my therapy. It has been helpful in the context of where I struggle to hear this person, to whom I am bearing my soul, has also been in therapy for many years and has personally struggled in some of the same ways I currently do. She is also so appropriate about it. I know very little about her personal life, if anything, now that I think about it...Which is intentional also, I am sure. (In the past I have used things like that to deflect from why I am really sitting in that room, lol. I'm pretty good at that....)